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How to get a friend with benefits - 8 tactics

  • 18 Nov

At some point in our lives, we all want a friend with benefits. Maybe we’re not ready for a relationship just yet, or we’re too busy with work, school or other things in life. That doesn’t mean we can’t still have a no strings attached relationship. Let’s be honest, sometimes it’s nice to have someone that you can sleep with, without the time and effort that comes with being in a committed relationship.

If you haven’t been in one before, you’re probably wondering how people even get into a fwb situation. It’s not like you can just go up to someone in the grocery store and ask them to sleep with you casually. The best tactics for ditching the one night stand and getting yourself a sex buddy are the ones that aren’t forced. Below, we list the 8 best tactics for approaching a potential fuckbuddy, and how to find the perfect person for it.

1. Approach an acquaintance

Sometimes the best things are the ones right in front of you. Maybe this is someone you’ve had a crush on for a while, or just someone that you have an attraction to that you think might be interested. Be careful in approaching someone you’re close with, like a best friend’s brother or sister, a colleague or someone in your close friend group. This is because if someone develops feelings and it doesn’t work out, you’ll still have to see them frequently.

The best fwb acquaintance is someone you know but not too well, and someone who’s open-minded. If you do approach an acquaintance, make sure you’re honest about the fact that you want casual sex, and see if they’re open to it. Be sure to set some ground rules, like if either of you catches feelings, you’ll be honest about it. These can be the perfect sex buddies because you already know and feel comfortable with them.

2. Use online dating

Sometimes the best tried and true tactic for finding a fuck buddy is to use online dating apps such as Tinder, Bumble or Hinge. The best way to go about this is to make sure you’re direct, but not off-putting. Make sure to state in your bio that you’re not looking for anything serious, and you just want to have fun. Then, once you match with someone, get to know them a little bit before you bring up the idea of being friends with benefits. This way, you won’t scare off someone or make them think you’re coming on too strong.

3. Ask a former one night stand

Since you’ve already had sex with this person, asking them to be your fuck buddy is a lot easier than to ask someone you haven’t had sex with. Simply text or call them and say you had fun with them before, and you’d like to do it again. See how they respond, and if it’s positive, you can go into more detail about what you’re looking for and make it clear that you want a casual relationship.

4. Expand your social circle

The best way to meet a fwb is to meet new people. Go to a party a friend is hosting, or invite your friends to get together and tell them to invite others. Then try to talk to and meet new people. Once you’ve met someone and flirted with them a bit, you can put it out there that you want a sex buddy. If they’re open to it, you can sleep with them and see how it goes It might end up being an amazing fwb situation!

5. Reconnect with an ex

Maybe there’s someone that you broke up with a while back that you’re still friends with. As long as you know that both of you don’t have feelings anymore, it might be worth seeing if you can keep with sex without the relationship. Wait until it’s been over 6 months after the breakup, as you want to make sure the feelings are gone before you start hooking up. Then, reach out and ask if they want to start a fwb relationship. Explain that you’re not trying to get back together with them, but you just want a casual fuck buddy.

6. Meet someone through a hobby

Have you always wanted to start rock climbing, knitting, or another hobby? Find a local club where you can sign up to do something new. Through this, you can meet new people and find someone that has the same interest as you. Then, you can become friends with them and see if they’re open to a fwb situation. Don’t come on too strong, but get to know them first and then see if they’re single and willing to be your sex buddy.

7. Go to a club or bar

Take some friends and head to a bar or club, where you can meet plenty of single people. Although this might just end up in a one night stand, you can then ask them if they want to continue and become your fwb. If you meet someone and begin talking, you can mention that you’re looking for something casual, and take it from there.

8. Ask your friends for help

Lastly, your best tactic is to ask your friends to set you up. They probably know tons of single people that would be interested in you, and they know you better than anyone. They can help you find someone as open-minded as you. Just be sure to confide in discrete friends, so they can subtly point out people you could approach and become friends with. Then, you can bring up that you’re looking for a sex buddy.

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